I went on a date today with my husband...a much needed date. It seems that life can keep us from the things we need the most. With four children we can so easily be distracted from focusing on our marriage just by being parents. For years Charlie and I made it a point to have weekly date nights, weekend getaways and time alone to focus on our marriage and each other. It was always so powerful in keeping us close, giving us strength and keeping us connected. The last couple years our date nights have dwindled and have been pretty scarce.
We went to PF Changs for some lunch and it was really good! We both talked about how we have missed time like this, no kids, no interruptions, just him and I having a great time. Funny thing was that we spent all our money at the restaurant and then didn't know what else to do that wouldn't cost anything. Then I remembered I had a giftcard to Starbucks...mmmm sounded perfect. So, off we went!
We arrived at Starbucks and ordered our hot cocoa and vanilla steamer. Did I mention all the gluten free snacks they now carry? So I had to get some gluten free sugar cookies to go with my steamer. It was delicious. We began talking and sharing with each other as if no one was in the room.
I have been struggling a lot lately. I have not been feeling very well. Fatigue and the lack of desire to do things have been my best friends. I have had no patience, and have been very short with my family. Charlie kept thinking I was unhappy, or something wrong, but I didn't know how to describe it.
I shared with him that I haven't been taking care of myself lately and the effect it has had on me. I am not eating well (meal missing), I am not exercising, I am not taking my vitamins (which are a lot for me) and I know this pattern doesn't serve me well, at all! So why do I spiral down like this? Why do I neglect what is good for me? Why do I ignore myself?
So tomorrow I am going to invest a little bit more on me. Sounds selfish but I think is necessary that my spiritual, mental and physical health is in check and then I can be of value to others. Here is what I would love from my friends...ENCOURAGEMENT! Please send me your thoughts, wisdom, and love during the next 30 days as I begin to change me from the inside out.
3 comments:
I can totally relate! You time is the best thing you can do for your family. If you're feeling good, then you are able to make them feel good and fill them with the love and attention they want.
You are an amazing woman whom I have always admired! I know you can do this. Your complete dependence on the Lord will get you there. He wants us to be whole, feel good emotionally and physically, and cling to Him to see us through.
You can do it Tamara!
It is amazing how our brain works! If we say positive things, to bring about positive thoughts, then positive things begin in our brains! It is truly amazing how God created our brain chemistry this way. Choose to do the things that help Tamara feel good, and think positive thoughts, and Tamara will start feeling much, much better! Don't allow yourself to spiral down. Too many people depend on you in your house! Love ya!!!!! Sharon S.
just found your blog and I love it :)
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